this might sound callous to some of y'all but being an abuse survivor doesn’t mean that every time someone writes a story with abuse in it is about you or your abuse or has anything to do with you at all.
unless someone is specifically writing about YOU and YOUR life story then they are not writing about you. they are not writing about your abuse. a writer is not writing about anyone’s abuse except for whatever character has been or is being abused in their story (or, perhaps, they are writing about their own abuse and working that out through those characters). for you to then come to them and say “stop writing about my abuse” makes…no sense.
the story is not about you.
the characters in that story are not you.
the writer likely does not even know you or anything about you.
being an abuse survivor does not mean you have the Ultimate Authority on who can/cannot write about abuse or how they can/cannot write about it. it does not mean that every story featuring abuse is about you and your individual experiences. it does not mean that every story that features abuse in a way you don’t like is a personal attack on you.
it is, point blank, not about you at all. it’s about the writer and the characters they write. they don’t know you at all and you, your abuse, and anything else about you are no a factor in their writing.
Social media holier-than-thou moralism doesn’t allow people to learn from their mistakes and grow the hell up. This sort of mentality is inherently toxic and literally kills any potential for growth and change. It’s like people just want to deny other people life and completely villainize them because of one bad word or a honest mistake. What kind of fucked up world are we living in?
Here’s another “friendly” reminder that the LGBTQIA+ community is not a fucking pissing contest to see who suffers the most oppression. The only people who do not belong in the LGBTQIA community are heterosexual, hetero-romantic, cisgender people (as in, ticking all three categories).
You’re biromantic, asexual, cis? You’re in.
Bisexual aro enby? Definitely in.
Asexual, aromantic, intersex? STILL IN.Our community is built on inclusion and love. Finding peace and comfort with each other when we can’t find it elsewhere.
Stop fucking gatekeeping. You look like an asshole. You don’t get to decide who can or cannot be part of the community. We are not some elite club, where each member must adhere to some standard of queerness.
It’s not a competition. Fucking stop acting like it.
